thoughts on how to be happy
Enjoy life.. when?.. Look at the reality.
Most of us or rather 99% of the population in India, grow up in lower middle class or poor families. Initial years need to be dedicated to getting a good education and hence during years of study the student needs to concentrate on studies. The period of study is not a few years but it is a very long period of time. It's minimum of 19 years when calculating the number of years from nursery to graduation. After that the person needs to try hard to get a job, accept the job offered even if not willing to work in that particular stream. On getting that job the person to some extent will be happy but not fully happy as he/she will be trying for a better job. Until the time of getting a good job there is no mood to enjoy life. The person may be forced to continue in the same job if not selected in the new job or not ready to relocate on getting the new job. Presuming that the person sticks to one good job, he/she has to be happy then. Yes, finally happy and thinking of enjoying life. But this happiness is short lived as by the time he/she is settled, new worries start coming up like adjusting to the changes that occur in the office. And by this time he/she is of the marriageable age!
Okay. assume one gets married and starts a changed lifestyle. Initially everything would look to be fine but as the days pass through various challenges seem to appear. The challenges like, understanding the spouse, cordial relationship with spouse's family, look for a home loan, vehicle loan etc. Once the EMI commences the financial burden starts and new worries such as not losing the employment etc will prick the mind. Then, of course once a child is born more responsibilities emerge and hence more worries. There is also a worry from the office side for updating the skills in order to get promotions. As children grow the responsibility of parents increases and worries will never see a logical end until the children's marriage.
Let us forget for the time being the carrying of worries of children's independent families. By this time somehow the age of retirement would be very near or already has come.
Now life is settled. He/she has a owned home, sufficient income to lead the rest of the life. Let us presume she/she has put an end to all other worries. A new type of worry has already occurred now in one's life. What is it? It's a health issue and this would be a major worry in life till death!
So when can a person be happy forever? Yes, it is possible only when we look into the following simple but difficult ways:
- Accept reality and move on.
- Accept challenges, face them and move on even if you fail in solving the problems.
- Look at others who are still struggling. Look at families who have more worries.
- Don't be carried away by the families that are better than you in standard of life. Remove jealousy from your heart.
- Don't look at what society would think of you but look at your family. Society will never help you. Family first.
- Lead a qualitative life.
- Help the poor to some extent and get happiness out of it.
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